Part of what I love about the girls' names is that they were both popular 100 years ago and many people with those names are now great-grandmas. Both names evoke a vision for me of sweet old ladies rocking away together on a porch. I pray Ella and Sadie will live meaningful lives full of love and will be enjoying each other on a front porch somewhere many years from now.

Friday, July 31, 2009

Random Recent Pics


I love this one of Ella walking Stella downtown

If only I could catch real smiles like this all the time! She is such a pretty little girl!!

Ella climbed up on this rock outside the Mall, steadied herself and then said something she's never said before, "Ok mom, wanna take my picture?"

If "whining" had a picture next to it in the dictionary, this would be it.

Ella's new favorite bath-time pasttime, washing the walls. Works for me.

Monday, July 27, 2009

Hilariously Obscene

**this post is mildly obscene and has been known to cause most men to gag (i.e. Chris and Dave Heiliger) so feel free to stop reading now if you are male or easily offended by naked cake**

So, a few months ago I came across a picture of a cake on Facebook from a friend's birthing class. I thought it was shocking but really funny and sent it to a few friends. My dear friend Jen wrote back right away saying she loved it and can we PLEASE make it for her at some point? Well, lo and behold her 3rd baby was born today!! So, a couple weeks ago a few close friends got together to celebrate the coming of the new baby and of course, we had to surprise her with the cake which I hadn't mentioned in months. Oh. My. Word. It was SO much fun to make and give this cake. My friend Erin and I spent most of the day making it but it was totally worth it! I highly recommend it for any of your more on-the-wild-side friends who are about to give birth!!


Ella helped with some parts of the cake :-)

All the cake needed for all the body parts

Erin feeling the tummy!

...and then trying it on!

It was Erin's idea to make the legs stand up (in the original cake we saw they were just laying down but we decided that was totally weak). Our lady got stirrups! Staple guns were invovled. Awesome.

All the cake laid out :-)

Coming to life!!

Icing a breast. Yes, icing a breast.

The finished product!! Notice all the personalized touches:
1)Jen has pigtails (very Jen)
2)She has purposely mismatched socks :-) (extremely Jenish)
3)She's holding a Chipotle burrito (Jen stopped there while in labor with her 1st, and I brought her Chipotle in the hospital the day after she gave birth to #2)

Erin and I were very proud of our handiwork :-)

and Jen's face was priceless!

She LOVED it!! SO worth it :-)

*in case you're wondering, Ella did see the cake and I was prepared to calmly, honestly answer any questions about birth or women's bodies that came up and seize this as an educational moment. But, she had very little reaction other than wanting to eat it. She didn't comment at all on the fact that Miss Jen was naked and when we asked her about the baby she said "the baby is just laying on the counter and Miss Jen is holding it!"

Shades of Peanut Butter

If I haven't mentioned it before, we go to a very diverse church. 17 years ago our pastor felt called to plant a multi-cultural church and was told by "experts" all over the country that it was impossible. Well he pursued it, believing God desires racial reconcilation, not division, and God has done it! Our church has over 2000 people and is definitely a mixture of colors and cultures. Not only are many races/ethnic groups represented but there are a lot of mixed-race couples like us. Our pastor is African-American and his wife is Korean so their kids represent one of the many "shades of peanut butter" you see a lot around our church :-) It's awesome to have to look hard to find Ella in her Sunday school class because she's not the only brown kid. In my own experience being biracial, you're always a minority, wherever you go. So to have a place where you can see other kids "like" you is a rarity. There's something about being with people like you that frees you up to not have to try to be something you're not. I'm excited to have a place to give that gift to Ella.

Ironically, the same place that helps give Ella a feeling of being "like" other kids is where she gets to learn all kinds of things about what makes cultures different! She's learned all kinds of fun (sometimes funny) cultural lessons. That said, we've been developing deeper friendships with friends from church and our playgroup is really starting to gel as a group and hang out more and more! So, of course, here are some recent pics :-)


make-up time with Hanna

A few of the girls hanging out on a hammock after swimming

Chik-fil-a!

A bunch of the group!

Sunday, July 12, 2009

Random Pics



Ella and a couple of her preschool buddies being wild at a playdate :-)

Ella dressing up like me for "work" :-)

Hanna and Ella using my make up brushes-this entertained them for a LONG time

Only decent pic from Fourth of July/Tucker's Bday party BBQ

Just like her cupcake intensity here

We have been painting up a storm lately :-)

Stroller Art

I rarely write a blog post right after something happens for lack of time or motivation. However, we JUST got back from our walk/run and I'm SO impressed I had to share.

So, Ella brought a coloring book in the stroller on our walk this time and here's the result!

I'm totally in awe. In the LINES. Colors that make SENSE. It was VERY recently that all her pictures looked like this one:

THIS is what I mean about her having some kind of developmental growth spurt in the last few weeks. I'm so proud of her and it's so much fun to see her SO proud of herself!

Saturday, July 11, 2009

All of a sudden...

Ella has never been into coloring or drawing and all of a sudden she can sit and draw for long periods of time! Ok, so it's like 15-20 minutes, but that's a long time when you're 3. Chris and I have been genuinely shocked at how quickly she's begun to draw things that a week ago she said "I don't know how! You draw it for me." It's so exciting to watch.


This is a picture of Chris with "Dad" written at the top :-)

A self-portrait :-)



Me! And check out the flower on the bottom right. She refused to draw a flower earlier that day because she said she never had and didn't know how. That's pretty darn good for your first flower in life!! We're loving this blossoming artist phase!

Friday, July 10, 2009

4th of July

These aren't the best pics but it's fun to see the cousins in front of the same tree in their 4th of july garb one year older!

Hannah (1), Christopher (3), and Ella (2)

Hannah (2), Christopher (4), Ella (3)

Developmental and Personal Update

I keep thinking about how when I look back at this blog I want to remember not just what Ella looked like or was doing at 3 1/2 but what she was like. That's hard to capture but I want to at least note some recent changes. It seems like all around she's had some kind of growth spurt in the last couple weeks-she's coloring much closer to "in the lines" seemingly overnight, writing her name all the time, picking up all kinds of new phrases and nuances to words and talking pretty much like an adult, and becoming quite the diplomatic bargainer rather than crying for things. She still whines more than we'd like but my guess is that'll be around for a while. Anyway, I thought Ella deserved a personal, developmental update since it is her blog and all :-)

According to me: Ella is doing great :-)
-She misses school and asks often if it's fall yet
-she's obsessed with Caillou (seriously, pretty much the only show she's watched for over a month) and has learned all kinds of useful facts from it
-still sleeping great (about 8-8)
-back to taking a drink to bed (oy-hope they make pull-ups in extra, extra large)
-begging and praying for a baby sister who she wants to name "Ella Madagascar"
-going on "nature walks" with me almost every day and overcoming her fear of bugs
-occasionally eating more than a bird, would still rather drink milk and prune juice all day long and eat nothing
-recently decided she likes eggs, strawberries, red peppers, apples, "spices" (pepper), and mustard and will rattle off this list at a moment's notice
-Ella is good at sharing. She is not good at cleaning up her toys.
-Ella likes painting, singing, reading, and drawing (this week anyway)
-Ella eats strawberry frosted mini-wheats or pancakes with yogurt and/or fruit every morning
-She struggles with whining when told "no" (usually about watching TV or having another drink)
-She's OBSESSED with Hannah and Christopher (2 of her cousins) right now
-She's going through her first ever clingy phase, usually only in unfamiliar places or with unfamiliar people (i.e. the dance class we had to quit because she wouldn't let go of my neck)
-She's starting to like stuffed animals for the first time and sleeps with a little doggie named Raleigh every night (thanks Aunt Stacy!)
-still very attached to her lovey, "blankie"
-she seems a lot like I was as a kid...she'd rather stay home, read books and do art projects and play with close friends than be on a playground or be outside or try something new
-very sweet and nurturing to animals and any inanimate object she decides needs a "mama"
-hasn't napped consistently in a year and half but doing ok with "rest time" (reading/playing quietly in her room for an hour until her timer goes off)
-A hearing aid HERO. She reminds us to put them on and wears them all the time without complaint. She's doing GREAT and has no speech problems at all according to her last evaluation!


According to actual experts:
This is from the national network for child care and is for kids in their fourth year
Motor Skills

feed herself (with little spilling)-yup
try to use a fork
-yup
hold a pencil-yup
try to write name-yup
draw with the arm and not small hand movements-not sure
draw a circle
-yup
draw a face-yup
try to cut paper with blunt scissors-yup
sometimes unbutton buttons-yup
try to buckle, button, and lace, even though she probably needs help-yup
completely undress herself if wearing clothes with simple fasteners-yup
brush teeth with help-yup
build a tower of 7-9 blocks-yup
put together a simple puzzle of 4-12 pieces-yup
pour from a small pitcher-yup
use the toilet alone-yup
try to skip-yup
catch a bouncing ball-not sure
walk downstairs using a handrail and alternating feet-not sure (we have no stairs)
swing, starting by himself and keeping himself going-yup


Sensory and Thinking Skills

recognize red, yellow, and blue-yup
understand taking turns and can do so without always being reminded-yup
understand "big," "little," "tall," "short"-yup
want to know what will happen next-yup
sort by shape or color-yup
count up to 5 objects-yup
follow three instructions given at one time-yup
("Put the toys away, wash your hands, and come eat.")
distinguish between the real world and the imaginary or pretend world
-yup
identify situations that would lead to happiness, sadness, or anger-yup


Language and Social Skills

have a large vocabulary and use good grammar often-yup
often talk about action in conversation ("go," "do," "make")-yup
enjoy rhyming and nonsense words-yup (she's really into rhyming lately and very good at it!)
use regular past tenses of verbs ("pulled," "walked")-yup
use "a," "an," and "the" when speaking-yup
ask direct questions ("May I?" "Would you?")-yup
want explanations of "why" and "how"-yup
relate a simple experience she has had recently-yup
understand "next to"-yup
separate from his parent for a short time without crying-yup
help clean up toys at home or school when asked to-yup (when asked many times is more like it)
like to play "dress up"-yup
pretend to play with imaginary objects-yup
act out elaborate events which tell a story (as in serving an imaginary dinner or going on a "dragon hunt")
sometimes cooperate with other children
often prefer playing with other children to playing alone, unless deeply involved in a solitary task
-yup
change the rules of a game as he goes along-yup
try to bargain ("I'll give you this toy if you'll give me that one")-yup
share when asked-yup
enjoy tag, hide-and-seek and other games with simple rules-yup
like moderate "rough and tumble" play-yup
like to do things for himself-yup
know her age and the town where she lives-yup
act as though a doll or stuffed animal thinks and feels on its own-yup

She's doing great!!

Fuse Beads


Step One: use lots of patience, creative design, and extreme manual dexterity. Top it off with fabulous fine motor skills.

Step Two: Endure the warming of the iron and awaiting an adult's help

Step Three: Use wax paper over your design to iron and thus fuse the beads together (DO NOT use a paper towel-I did, not one of my brightest moments)

Step Four: Admire your work of art! Good job Christopher!!


By the way:
1)Ella had never finished one before Christopher came over and did one and she was inspired and diligently worked very hard and made one the next morning :-)
2) They carry these at Michael's but the ones from Ikea are much cheaper (but the beads are also smaller thus better for older kids)

Friday, July 3, 2009

Left over Hershey stuff...

This is the first time one day has been fodder for 4 blog posts. But it was an excellent day :-)

The chocolate-themed-ness of Hershey is just shy of annoying, I find the kiss shaped light poles endearing :-)

After the Gardens Ella and I went to Chocolate World and I got Ella to imitate the candy on the roof :-) Also, I am happy to report that I did not spend a dime there and Ella was completely satisfied with her miniature Hershey bar they gave out at the end of the ride. She didn't even ask for anything even though we walked around a store full of chocolate that is the size of a football field. What a great moment for her to be content!

Ella really likes the ride in Chocolate World. It's just our pace: moves about 2 miles an hour, no loops, smells like chocolate, cows sing a catchy (though quite repetitive) tune, educational info on how chocolate is made, and free candy at the end! The new piece of info Ella picked up on was that cacao plants grow in Africa. She was so excited to hear this and kept saying "Mommy, that's where Gedeon lives!!"(the child we support through Compassion Intl.) Great content for our next letter to Gedeon because Ella really wants to know if he likes chocolate as much as she does :-)

Hershey Butterfly House

I was worried Ella might freak out about hundreds of butterflies in an enclosed area considering her recent near-seizure-like responses to bugs, but she did great! It really was awe-inspiring to walk in and be surrounded by beautiful flowers and then, as your eyes adjust, see that there are butterflies everywhere! After about a minute of just standing and looking quietly Ella turned to me and in a hushed voice said "Mom, this is amazing!"


the "map" (as Ella calls anything with any type of directions)


There are probably about a dozen butterflies in this 2 foot area


GREAT experience!

Thursday, July 2, 2009

Hershey Gardens

After the zoo and a great lunch (I highly recommend The Chocolate Ave. Grill) we dropped Chris off to meet friends at Hershey Park. Then, on a whim decided to see what the sign for "Hershey Gardens" was all about. OH. MY. GOSH. I've got to follow whims much more often. It was amazing. I haven't enjoyed myself so much in a LONG time. The beauty of creation was overwhelming and magnified by the pure joy of watching Ella's eyes light up over and over in wonder at all we saw. It was the perfect place for me and for Ella, a little girl who has been saying, since she could put the sentence to together "flowers make me happy!"


Just to give you an idea, this is the rose garden we walked into when we entered the garden. We spent 30 minutes here because I thought this had to be all there was. It smelled amazing and we had so much fun reading all the names of the different colors of roses. Then, I discovered this garden was about 1/8 of the whole place! Have I said "amazing" enough??

Hydrangeas are my favorite flower which Ella knows so she was thrilled to point them out all over the gardens. She also said she wants to have them in her wedding like I did :-) I told her she has to get married at Hershey Gardens. I'm not kidding.

All of the gardens had themes (there were probably 20 different ones) The Children's Garden was awesome!!!

A big part of the children's garden was plants that began with each letter of the alphabet which Ella loved.

My favorite part of the Children's Garden was the "secret garden." You go down some steps into a lush, wooded area with a pond, a stone bridge and then this little table and chairs hiddwn in the trees. It felt magical!

On our way through the "Coniferous Trees Garden" to the "Ornamental Grasses Garden." We also spent time in the Herb Gardens which smelled great!

The Spa Garden had all kinds of spa-worthy herbs and plants and some of them growing in this bathtub!

This tree was so cool...

this is what the "walls" looked like from inside...

and this is what it looked like if you look up! Ella asked if we could please live there.

The red-orange-yellow rows of the Rainbow Garden where each row was a bunch of color-coordinated plants and flowers.

There were so many beautiful little gazebos and benches under trees and nooks and crannies that seemed perfect for memorable moments...


If you look closely you'll see a bee in this rose. Ella was so excited to tell me about how it was getting pollen to go make honey!

My beautiful little girl enjoying the flowers! Stay tuned for the Butterfly House...